The Roles of Family Members – Why are they crucial in developing one’s faith?
His hands are aching. His face – red.
There are stains of blood in his palm.
As Philip wandered his eyes on the aftermath of the recent riot – he saw his 3 friends severely wounded. He couldn’t believe he would involve himself this much.
Why?, he said. Why this thing happened to me?
75 million juveniles in the US
One in four Americans have the potential of being labeled as juvenile delinquents (because they are considered juveniles) [Source: Wikipedia]
Most of these cases are attributed to living arrangement problems – or simply, their relationship with the family where they grew up. That is why it is necessary for us to define the roles of each family member to lessen if not to avoid this problem.
A thousand-year old book teaches us these roles
Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from. (Proverbs 22:6) A clear guide from the bible that summarizes what parents/guardians should do or teach with their children. Parents should teach their children “on the way” they should go.
The way of God
We oftentimes encourage our children to study hard, be competitive, become successful with his or her career, be wealthy and all. But what parents usually forget is to instill with their children the core foundation necessary for success not only with their physical and social stature but with their spiritual being as well.
If parents would only teach their children not to look for the riches of this world but rather – to fear God and keep his commandments, then their duty as parents will be fulfilled – because it is the only duty of mankind (Ecclesiastes 12:13).
And the bible teaches us what each family member should do…
Talk the talk, walk the walk – the Father’s role
Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged – as Colossians 3:21 tells us. We must form a good image of a loving husband, a good provider and a caring father in front of our children. Do teach them out of respect and not out of fear. It is easy to tell them not to smoke but it would be easier if we can talk the talk and walk the walk. If we want them to avoid vices, then it is the father who should be the first to show the example. Remember that our kids look to us like a role model – so be one.
But influencing one’s faith does not end with the knowledge of what a father should do. Knowing the role of a mother is as equally important a matter, just like Eunice did.
What does the bible teaches us about Eunice?
I have been reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also. (2 Timothy 1:5)
Timothy’s mother passed to him, not the worries of this life, but the sincere faith of a Christian. Not just faith but sincere faith. And to be able to pass on this faith, we should teach our children the beauty and joy of serving the Lord.
The Bible tells us things about Eunice being a mother. We could clearly see that Timothy was acquainted with the sacred writings since his childhood (2 Timothy 3:14-15). And the result is the sincere faith of Timothy to our Lord. Eunice did it. You could too.
And finally, the role as children
No parents would want their children to go astray. Thus, listening to and obeying our parents should be our main role as a child. Just like Ephesians 6:1-3 teaches us.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.
Truly the bible teaches us clearly how each of these roles fit together
And identifying each role is as equally important as doing them.
Inside the church, we are taught to obey and serve God as the foundation of everything we do.
Equipped with this spirit, we exercise the act of humility.
…In places that others can see, and even in places that only us could see.
…Be it worship halls or in even the subtlety of our rooms.
As we gaze in this little room, we could see Phillip
And Philip suddenly woke up from that bad dream. It was 4 a.m.
“Thank you Lord, thank you for the clear understanding of your teachings”, he said.
And then he kneels down. It is already time for Devotion. Along with with his family… he realizes his role … like what everybody in the church does.